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When requesting a Classic or Points swap members need to message their host first before confirming a home swap. Sending swap requests doesn’t have to be a lengthy process, so we’ve provided our top tips to help you secure your dream home swap.

Always be friendly

While technically the home swapper you're messaging is a stranger - we can confidently say that treating them as such won't get you far. Love Home Swap is a club, so even if you don't know each other, yet, you already have something in common. Open your email with something friendly or warm - and we really encourage you to take the time to use their name, even if you are messaging multiple swappers. It's all about being personal.


Keep it sweet, but not too short

Many home swappers are busy people, so you guys don't want to have to read through pages of text. Equally however, the name of the game here is establishing a level of rapport and, ultimately, trust - which requires more than a couple of lines. We recommend around 200 words for a swap request. Key things to include would be: - When you are looking to travel - Who you will be travelling with/ who will be staying in their home - Why you’d like to stay in their home


People swap with people

If we have one tip for writing a good swap request message, it's 'make it personal'. Show some thought and consideration, whether you're sending one request for this particular trip or sending out several in one location. Key parts to include:

Use their name. It’s simple but effective.

Compliment their home. Tell them why you've hand-picked their home for your holiday.

Sell your swap. If you’re sending a classic swap request, let them know all about your place and what it has to offer them. Set yourself apart and tell them what makes your home special.

Reference their profile. If there's anything in their profile they ask for that you can offer - whether it's a spacious family home, something that relates to their hobbies or even just your location - let them know about it.

Sell yourself. This is the beginning of a trust establishing exercise, so start off being open. Let them know a little about who you are and maybe why you're swapping or your reasons for travelling to where they are.

Radiate responsibility. Remember, this person will be leaving their home in your hands, so they want to hear you're responsible. Mentioning details like your occupation(s) and any children or pets you have can help here. Noting any previous swap experience (if you have it) is also a great addition. Another great way to build trust is by getting verified by Love Home Swap to prove that you are a ‘real’ person.


A for accuracy

Grammar and language are always important - so you need to consider this strongly when you write your message. If you're writing to someone whose first language isn't English, for example, consider using simple, universal language. It's also important to ensure your grammar and spelling is correct, to avoid ambiguity and confusion. If you do speak other languages, it's worth adding these in too. You may have a common language you didn't expect, which might make them more inclined to reply.


Get flexible

Most swappers have a clear idea of dates they want to swap - which is fine, but your chances of swap success will be infinitely higher if you can be even a little bit flexible. If you have any flexibility at all, try to convey this in your message. Whether that's something like 'We're hoping to swap to New York for one week anytime between June - August 2019' or a less fluid 'We'd ideally like to swap to New York for the week starting July 11th, but may be able to move these slightly if you can't make these work'. If you can suggest a couple of different dates - if you're fairly fixed - even better.


Finish with flair

In your close off, show you're serious. Ask the member if they'd be kind enough to decline if they're not interested, so you can remove them from your potential swap list and encourage further discussion. While you're unable to exchange phone number or emails, for your security, until the swap is agreed on-site, just adding a simple 'would be great to hear your thoughts' or 'I'd love to discuss further' shows you're cooperative and invested in making the swap work for both sides. As we're all friends here, leave your regards at the door where your work emails are and try something a little more personal like 'warm wishes' or 'look forward to hearing from you'. Complete with a sign off - ideally of both your first name and last name (including who you are swapping with), to build a feeling a legitimacy.


Timing is everything

People aren't always checking their messages - so be mindful of this. Try to leave yourself as much time as possible to arrange your swap and also be lenient with how long you expect a reply within. Some people will message back in a matter of hours, others possibly a couple of weeks. If you are having trouble with response rates, do get in touch with our team who may be able to follow up with the member.


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